4. Connect With the Right People
(Courage to rely on others)

One of the keys for a CEO (or any manager) is to make sure that they have the right people on the team. If you don’t have the right people on the team, it’s hard to play the game—even with a great plan.

For you, on a heroic journey, this is particularly important. Heroes never go alone in the myths, stories or movies. None of us will be very successful if we try to go alone on our journeys.

Who Can I Connect With?

There are a surprising number of potential supporters out there. The key is engaging a bunch of people in small ways and not relying on just a few. That way no one will feel too much pressure and you will have lots of support from different perspectives. These people can support you in achieving the goals in your plan as well as developing specific capabilities that you are pursuing (see #6, "Hold the Course" below INSERT LINK TO 6). For example, you call on:

  • Peers
  • Neighbors
  • Family members
  • Extended family
  • Colleagues/co-workers of parents
  • Employers
  • Teachers
  • Coaches
  • Guidance Counselors
  • Assistant Principals
  • People in community organizations
  • People in faith communities

Coach people about how to support you.

You are asking people to support you not because you are weak or inadequate or “needy.” You are putting together a team to help you achieve goals so that you can realize your vision. You matter and are of significance, so you are worth supporting.

This can be as simple as saying, “I am pursuing these goals and, if you are willing, I would like you to support me by __________________ (fill in the blank).” 

That may seem awkward, but in the majority of cases you will probably be very surprised at how willing people are to support you—they will like doing it. For most adults teenagers are a mystery and they aren’t sure how to be supportive. If you tell them how to support you, you will actually be doing them a favor.

You can also “contract” with peers to go forth together—challenging and supporting each other on the journey. “Let’s go forth together and challenge and support each other. I invite you to challenge me to __________.  And you can support me by __________.”

It takes courage to engage people in supporting you and then relying on them—but heroes don’t go alone. They never do in the myths and stories and they don’t in real life either.


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