The ULTIMATE resource for being a teenager.

Guidance for teens and adults navigating the 10-year teen heroic journey
Where Do I Start?

"I just want to survive being a teenager. How do I make my way?"

Check the Intro Video for a quick overview & then just explore the site to see what can make a difference in your life – now

Where Do I Start?

"I don’t want to just survive – I want to thrive and make a difference"

Check the the Intro Video & the sections in Specials on Thriving & Making a Difference

Where Do I Start?

"Help – I’m thinking of taking my own life"

Act on the suggestions in the Specials section on “I’m Feeling Suicidal”

Send the section on helping someone who is suicidal to anyone that could help you.

Where Do I Start?

"I’m an adult who cares about teenagers.  How can I make a difference?"

Check the Intro Video & then explore the site to see what can make a difference for you in your role

There are specific sections on the homepage for parents, teachers, counselors, coaches, bosses and pediatricians.

What You Will Find Here

You Face 3 Core Challenges

#1  Identity.  Forming a young adult identity – knowing who you are and who you want to become 

#2  Relationships.  Developing new more mature relationships – connected to peers, adults and romantic partners

#3  Competencies.  Building the competencies to be successful as a young adult


What You Will Find Here

What to Expect on Your Journey

What’s normal & natural on the journey?

A roadmap for navigating the rollercoaster journey with confidence


What You Will Find Here

What to Do - Managing Your Journey

Six strategies to adapt to become the author of your experience

Strategies that build an increasing sense of power & confidence 

What You Will Find Here

Special Topics

Thriving – Bullying – Suicide – Making a Difference – Gaming -Quotes – Other Resources & More

Take Charge

Go Get the Benefits

#1 Increase your understanding and decrease confusion

#2 Increase your confidence and decrease doubts

#3 Increase your connections and decrease isolation

#4 Increase your excitement and decrease anxiety

#5 Increase your courage and decrease fear

Become the author of your life vs. letting life just happen to you

Take Charge

Go Wherever Your Curiosity Leads You

Just explore whatever sections are of interest

This is a 10-year journey that is complex and mysterious – it’s not a race – go at your own pace 


Take Charge

Talk With Others

Talk with others – peers, trusted adults, in groups

Others support you & you support others – that’s how it works


Take Charge

Use the Worksheets ("Thought Catchers")

The worksheets are designed so that you can capture your thoughts and save them

Only you can see your worksheets


Introductory Video

As a teenager, you are on a 10-year heroic journey – just like in the stories and myths. You have to leave the known world of childhood, discover and master the ways of young adulthood, and deal with all the mysteries in-between (“inbetweenity”). It’s a rollercoaster and it naturally requires courage, perseverance and resilience – which build on the journey.

You face three core challenges – forming an identity as a young adult – developing new or more mature relationships with parents, peers and romantic partners – and building a range of young adult competencies. In the process, you learn how to become the author of your life.

This site can help you understand the challenges, know what to expect on your journey and manage your journey with increasing confidence. There is no recipe and everyone’s journey is different, but there is a lot of information here to help you find your way.

The key is to be curious. It’s not a book online, so just go wherever your interest leads you.

Gordon Barnhart

Get A Comprehensive Summary

Download the PDF

Here is an Overview - Start Being Curious

Part 4: Special Topics

There are dozens of resources, hundreds of quotes and a bunch of special topics to explore – be curious.

How Do You Play Your Role on the Journey?

The key is to adapt the site to your role.