All or Nothing

This is a dangerous pitfall because it can come in so many forms. Feeling that you need to be perfect at something – or the best – or better than others is the common issue. It helps to remember that you are a “work in progress” and not yet finished.

• If I’m not the best, I’m nothing or just…
• If I’m not perfect, I’m nothing or just…
• If I’m not good at everything, I’m nothing or just…
• If I’m not better than ___, I’m nothing or just…
• If I make a mistake or fail at something, I’m nothing or just…
• If I don’t make the _____ team, I’m nothing or just…
• If I don’t get the part in the play or make the orchestra, I’m nothing or just…
• If I don’t win, I’m nothing or just…
• If I don’t get into _______ University, I’m nothing or just…
• If I don’t meet ________’s standards, I’m nothing or just…

There are lots of traps here.