We all make mistakes in relationships, so a mistake, stumble or even an infrequent lashing out in frustration or anger should not necessarily mean that a relationship isn’t a good one. An ongoing pattern of poor behaviors, however, would mean that it is a questionable relationship.

Where there are screw-ups, it is always important in recovering to take responsibility for the screw-up, ask forgiveness and commit to avoiding that screw-up in the future. It is also important to be ready to forgive – in good relationships, not in abusive ones.