Act When You are Ready
There is no single “right way” to be a teenager and to manage your experience. Although the heroic journey is the common path for teenagers, everyone’s journey unfolds in a unique way.
There are no “shoulds “ – no guilt – if you are not ready to fully engage with these six strategies for managing your experience. Everyone develops at their own pace.
However – life won’t wait. It’s important to at least be curious about what’s here and what you might do. You don’t need to be fully committed right now, but you do need to be engaged at some level.
This “what to do about it” section provides a way to integrate all of the thoughts you have captured throughout the site in a way that can dramatically increase the influence you have over your experience. The six strategies are surprisingly powerful in helping to become the author of your life. Start using them when you are ready.
Readiness – Four Groups
“Look out world, here I come.”
You are ready to go full speed – ready to go solo or in a group – ready to go after one or all three of the core challenges and develop your strategies to manage your journey. A surprising number of people will fall into this group, but it will definitely be a minority – mostly older teenagers that are starting to feel more powerful.
Action. Work through this section to create your vision and plan, develop a support network and pay attention to your progress (persevere). Pay attention to what it feels like to be the author of a life.
I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind
Some come from ahead and some come from behind
But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see.
Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me.
“Pretty much ready to go, but not quite ready to go full speed”
You may be ready to focus on one of the core challenges or the nature of the journey. You may be curious and ready to experiment, but not ready to be really disciplined in working with the six strategies. Most people will fall into this category – and that’s fine.
Action. Explore the different sections in the site and see what strikes your interest. Try creating a simple vision or plan and see what a support network might look like. Act where your interest lies and see what starts to unfold. Talking with others or engaging with a group can help a great deal.
“On the sidelines.”
You are finding topics of interest on the site, but not ready to start pulling things together and acting in an organized way. But, you might engage if in a strong relationship with someone that is already engaged or in a group that is going forth together. This is a category that a lot of people fall into, particularly younger teenagers. Even on the sidelines a lot can be going on that prepares you to engage more actively. This is kind of a “preparing to go forth” group.
Action. Just be curious and poke around to see what might be of interest and see where it leads you – trust that you will act when you are ready – just stay engaged in exploring your journey. At some point, someone or some experience will probably come along and cause you to think, “OK, time get more serious about this stuff.”
“Not going to engage.”
You are blaming others or “life” for your problems. You are letting life happen to you. You are reacting to what happens vs. making things happen.
Almost everyone will have some of this experience, but most people move beyond them. Those that don’t are in trouble – and so are the people around them. Sometimes an event will help people get out of this rut and sometimes someone will intervene, but some people never get out
Being in this group is not a failure. Staying in this group for too long will be.
Action. Use the site even if you don’t feel like it (if you are in this group right now, you won’t feel like it). Sometimes you just have to act even if you don’t see the point. If you run into someone willing to help you, accept the help. If you can join a group that is taking on the journey – do it because the group can supply the energy you may not feel.
“Let no one be discouraged by the belief that there is nothing one man or one woman can do against the enormous array of the world’s ills — against misery and ignorance, injustice and violence… Few will have the greatness to bend history itself; but each of us can work to change a small portion of events, and in the total of all those acts will be written the history of this generation…
It is from the numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped. Each time a man (or a woman) stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he (or she) sends a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring, those ripples build a current which can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.”
Robert F. Kennedy speech
Day of Affirmation, University
Of Capetown, South Africa